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Inhibitions and blockages are very restrictive in everyday life
If we don't dare to jump over our shadows, inhibitions or blockages are usually the cause of many missed opportunities. In retrospect, many people are annoyed that they have not been braver and have overcome themselves. This applies to addressing an attractive woman as well as requesting promotion from the manager. Countless excuses, like "I don't want to embarrass myself", "It's embarrassing" or "I can't do it", haunt our heads, which prevent us from leading a free and self-determined life. The news agency "dpa" spoke to experts about how inhibitions and blockages can be overcome.
Inhibitions and blockages prevent a free and self-determined life "Inhibitions have an effect on development," explains Nikolaus B. Enkelmann, motivational trainer and author of the book, to the news agency asking for a raise. A lot of people just don't dare because they're afraid of embarrassing themselves and being marginalized.
Enkelmann advises anyone who has inferiority complexes to try to find out what they are based on. Because fears and inhibitions block you again and again in the crucial moments. Many affected people are annoyed afterwards and regret that they were not braver. If you want to remove your inhibitions and blockages, you cannot avoid getting to the bottom of them. By reflecting on possible triggers such as fear of embarrassment and its causes, thinking and acting can be changed. If this succeeds, a free and self-determined life is possible.
A lack of self-confidence often forms the basis of inhibitions and blockages "Blockades have reasons," says graduate psychologist Lutz Hertel, who is the chairman of the German Wellness Association, to the news agency. "Something happened at some point that people are no longer free." Most of the time this is due to the fear of failing, making mistakes or embarrassing oneself. "You would be much freer if you didn't have to fear that others would talk about you or turn away," said Hertel. With these fears, you quickly get into a vicious circle: Because of fear, the inhibitions become bigger and the risk appetite, sometimes something new to try, less and less.
Julia Scharnhorst from the Professional Association of German Psychologists (BDP) explains in an interview with the news agency that the fear of being out of the ordinary makes sense for living together in a community. But that could also turn negative if someone no longer dares in obedience ahead of schedule. Then there is a lack of self-confidence behind the inhibitions.
Fear of uncertain results triggers inhibitions and blockages for many people. In addition, a kind of compulsory control leads to many people being prevented from trying something new. It often seems much easier to move around in known, apparently controllable structures than to dare the unknown. The fear of uncertain results often prevents changes and a change of perspective. An annoying job or an unhappy relationship is then carried on instead of facing the problems, ending the old and being open to something new. "A guarantee of success is often expected, but there is no guarantee," explains the psychologist.
Even "early experiences that you no longer reflect on", too high expectations of yourself and habits that had become so entrenched that you could no longer question them, could inhibit and block. Scharnhorst cites perfectionist women as examples are very afraid that something will fail, that they will not try it out at all. She advises those affected to ask themselves where the inhibitions and blockages come from and what are the fears behind them. Thus, low self-esteem often triggers fear of failure because the person concerned is in his self-image "not enough" and not "good enough" as he is, and if he still fails, the self-image is completely destroyed.
Learning to reduce inhibitions and blockages with cognitive behavioral therapy According to Hertel, cognitive behavioral therapy is a suitable psychological method to reduce inhibitions and blockages, because with the help of a therapist, beliefs, beliefs and thoughts about oneself, one's environment and life are discovered, recognized and changed can be. The client learns new beliefs and behaviors that help him to be freer and more relaxed in everyday life. A particular breathing technique can help to calm down and relax in particularly stressful situations. "Fear leads to tremendous excitement and tension," reports Hertel. In order to remove blockages, fears must also be resolved.
Motivation trainer grandson advises to keep a lucky diary. "We note three things there every evening that we were happy about today," he explains. "Even on days when everything went wrong, there are three things." Anyone who has done this for a while will notice a change. "After a year, the head looks very different." Instead of continuing to deal with negative thoughts, the mind is then guided by positive information. In addition, you have to find out what you really want and implement it. "Everyone can live his life take it in your hand and change it, "explains Enkelmann.
When trying out new things, not doing too much at once Scharnhorst also advises her clients to write down positive things. Successes that had been in the past should be written down as well as the everyday positive things. This could also include a call that had been put off for a long time and to which one had finally made it.
If you find yourself trying to try something new, you shouldn't overwhelm yourself. The psychologist advises on salami tactics: "Do not do too much at once, but only so much that it still feels comfortable, and wherever successful experiences are possible." In this way, you can try out a job change or try a new one A first trial lesson before a contract is signed, and good experiences are the basis for venturing into the next project, says the psychologist.
It is also helpful to have a strategic plan for which you ask yourself questions such as "Why am I doing this?" "What are the advantages and disadvantages?" And "Which difficulties could be encountered and can I solve them?" It also helps to tell others about his plans. Because this means that you commit yourself to comply with what has been done, explains Scharnhorst.